I've been observing teens a lot lately,I live with some anyway, and I feel like the teen community has changed quite a lot since my teen days. I think it's EXTREMELY stupid that these things are considered important to them now :
** Social events :
Gigs, group hangouts or meets, school concerts, carnivals, basically anything which involves a lot of people, where they can 'mingle' around and stuff, etc.
Eg : Next week there's this gig and ALL my friends are going, but mom won't let me go, she wants me to study. My mom sucks, she doesn't understand me, she's so uncool. (If I had the power, I'd slap these kinda teens up and down the wall)
I actually like going for gigs, but I wouldn't abandon my studies or lie to my mom about it.
** Who they hangout with :
Are the ppl they hangout with popular enough, good looking enough. Or do they have a lot of friends I can 'tumpang' be friends with.
Eg : Oh My God, Mr.A is going for that gig tomorrow, if I don't go, everyone else will get to be friends with him, and not me, my life is over!(ohh please).
I seriously don't care if I go out with only 1 person. And I don't care if there won't be any 'hotties' at the place I'm going to. Pfftt..
** Relationships :
Are you single? Or do you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend? What? Why? I'm single, and I'm loving it (good for them). But she has a boyfriend, and she's been having problems, oooooohhh. Poor girl. Ooohh, why can't I be happy? What if no one wants to marry me? Oh my God, what if my boyfriend cheats on me? Will we get divorced in the future? Ohh my oohh my. (Give it a freakin break man).
Eg : Tomorrow Miss B has a maths test, but she worrying about something. What is it, "I can't concentrate, coz I'm not sure, does he like me or not?? He's been smiling at me for days, but I'm still not sure, does he like me?? Oh my God, I'd rather be hanging out with him right now than sitting here and studying so I can have a bright future".
Ok I kinda exaggerated on some of the examples. But yeahh, that's how it seems these days. Maybe not ALL teens. Coz I know some are still sane and sober from all that crap, and they still have a sense a guilty concsience within them.
Anyway, I totally understand that this is the stage where they wanna have fun and socialize with people. I used to feel that way too.Hey, I've been there.
If they're actually able to balance they're studies, and respect towards their parents and hve fun atthe same time GOOD for YOU!
What I hate is that, because they care so much about all those stuff they tend to go overboard with certain things. Like, lying to their parents just so they could go for a gig or what-so-ever. It sucks that they never think about the kind of things they're parents have been through in raising them.
For example, a father works day and night in a factory, just to raise money for the kid to have a better life. And what does the kid do, spend it on gigs and expensive clothes, just so everyone would think he's cool.
Second example,
A girls calls up her mom after school, and tells her that she'll be back late because she has a meeting. But the truth is, she doesn't even have a meeting, she goes out for lunch with her friends, and go flirt around with guys in the library.
Although, she would totally deny all that, just by looking at her,you'll JUST KNOW.
How would the mom feel about that?
BETRAYED. All this while I thought we're like bestfriends, but this is what she's been doing to me all this while?
I feel really sad for these people.
I'm not saying I've never lied. I have, but only when it's really important, when I know the truth might hurt my mom or dad.
But EVERYTIME I go out anywhere, I always inform my mom about it.
OK take it this way. What if , while the girl was out having fun, and she gets kidnapped or hit by a car. Her mom's at home, thinking that her daughter is so hardworking, she's in a meeting. What a GOOD daughter, I'm the luckiest mom alive.
WRONG!
Maybe I'm just speaking from what I've seen. I'm sure, there are a lot of teens who are waaaay different than the ones I mentioned.
But,I'm juz wondering, how can we get these people to think straight.
Aren't they worried about how they're doing i school? Or how they're lives are gonna be like in the future. It's easy to hide your report card now, but what are u gonna do when you've got no place to hide anymore.
It's just dumb.
I wouldn't wanna see my mom or dad be treated like crap because they didn't allow someone to go for some lame gig that the WHOLE WORLD is going for.
As twisted as I may sound, I enjoy kicking those people in my dreams ;)
** Social events :
Gigs, group hangouts or meets, school concerts, carnivals, basically anything which involves a lot of people, where they can 'mingle' around and stuff, etc.
Eg : Next week there's this gig and ALL my friends are going, but mom won't let me go, she wants me to study. My mom sucks, she doesn't understand me, she's so uncool. (If I had the power, I'd slap these kinda teens up and down the wall)
I actually like going for gigs, but I wouldn't abandon my studies or lie to my mom about it.
** Who they hangout with :
Are the ppl they hangout with popular enough, good looking enough. Or do they have a lot of friends I can 'tumpang' be friends with.
Eg : Oh My God, Mr.A is going for that gig tomorrow, if I don't go, everyone else will get to be friends with him, and not me, my life is over!(ohh please).
I seriously don't care if I go out with only 1 person. And I don't care if there won't be any 'hotties' at the place I'm going to. Pfftt..
** Relationships :
Are you single? Or do you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend? What? Why? I'm single, and I'm loving it (good for them). But she has a boyfriend, and she's been having problems, oooooohhh. Poor girl. Ooohh, why can't I be happy? What if no one wants to marry me? Oh my God, what if my boyfriend cheats on me? Will we get divorced in the future? Ohh my oohh my. (Give it a freakin break man).
Eg : Tomorrow Miss B has a maths test, but she worrying about something. What is it, "I can't concentrate, coz I'm not sure, does he like me or not?? He's been smiling at me for days, but I'm still not sure, does he like me?? Oh my God, I'd rather be hanging out with him right now than sitting here and studying so I can have a bright future".
Ok I kinda exaggerated on some of the examples. But yeahh, that's how it seems these days. Maybe not ALL teens. Coz I know some are still sane and sober from all that crap, and they still have a sense a guilty concsience within them.
Anyway, I totally understand that this is the stage where they wanna have fun and socialize with people. I used to feel that way too.Hey, I've been there.
If they're actually able to balance they're studies, and respect towards their parents and hve fun atthe same time GOOD for YOU!
What I hate is that, because they care so much about all those stuff they tend to go overboard with certain things. Like, lying to their parents just so they could go for a gig or what-so-ever. It sucks that they never think about the kind of things they're parents have been through in raising them.
For example, a father works day and night in a factory, just to raise money for the kid to have a better life. And what does the kid do, spend it on gigs and expensive clothes, just so everyone would think he's cool.
Second example,
A girls calls up her mom after school, and tells her that she'll be back late because she has a meeting. But the truth is, she doesn't even have a meeting, she goes out for lunch with her friends, and go flirt around with guys in the library.
Although, she would totally deny all that, just by looking at her,you'll JUST KNOW.
How would the mom feel about that?
BETRAYED. All this while I thought we're like bestfriends, but this is what she's been doing to me all this while?
I feel really sad for these people.
I'm not saying I've never lied. I have, but only when it's really important, when I know the truth might hurt my mom or dad.
But EVERYTIME I go out anywhere, I always inform my mom about it.
OK take it this way. What if , while the girl was out having fun, and she gets kidnapped or hit by a car. Her mom's at home, thinking that her daughter is so hardworking, she's in a meeting. What a GOOD daughter, I'm the luckiest mom alive.
WRONG!
Maybe I'm just speaking from what I've seen. I'm sure, there are a lot of teens who are waaaay different than the ones I mentioned.
But,I'm juz wondering, how can we get these people to think straight.
Aren't they worried about how they're doing i school? Or how they're lives are gonna be like in the future. It's easy to hide your report card now, but what are u gonna do when you've got no place to hide anymore.
It's just dumb.
I wouldn't wanna see my mom or dad be treated like crap because they didn't allow someone to go for some lame gig that the WHOLE WORLD is going for.
As twisted as I may sound, I enjoy kicking those people in my dreams ;)
1 comment:
salam.
YAY!!!!!!!!! you're back!
again, one critical thought from qillz! I really like this piece. it gives out the real society nowadays. i haven't gone to any gigs, but I bet gigs are cool. But lying your way through? nope. not a chance.
People may call us a mother's son, a baby or anything, but nothing changes the fact that we will not lie to get something.
the best way is to tell the truth and sometimes, you just get that shot.
relationship? hmm.. there are lots of priorities to think of one. I just hope that someone come to me and tell me she's ready, LOL!
being single or 'double' is your choice. Islam gave us the perfect way to socialise and get to know each other. when people did not adhere there is lots of problem. you can be single and double but still not jeopardise your religion.
Anyway, it is God's will. just put in your commitment and love without the intention of being loved back. and what's up with marrying for a better future? marry someone rich and then you can be happy for the rest of your life? lets put it this way: marriage is not only physical, but emotional, spiritual etc. It involves a convergence of goals between husband and wife. you dont just abandon your dreams after you marry. you have to work your part as well! LOL!
but, of course, the best is to love who love you back. God watches you, care for you every single moment. Why don't we love HIM?
this is an addition of my thoughts when I read this post. i think of making a new blog post out of this comment, LOl! (so long, aite?)
thanks qillz, for this thought provoking post. do more of these! LOL! =)
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